Are Parents Hypocrites of the Golden Rule?
Many people say to live your life treating others as you would like to be treated.
Yet still parents spank their children.
The definition of ‘people’ runs as follows: All the persons of a racial or ethnic group; nation, race, etc.
The word ‘people’ includes children as well as adults. Many adults may treat each other with respect and consideration but those same adults go home and spank their children.
Many adults are patient and willing to help their friends through difficulties but those same adults go home and do the exact opposite for their children.
While many parents are supportive and kind to their children, others are not. Even within households where parents are supportive of their children, spanking still occurs.
It is hypo-criticism of “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”, the Golden Rule, and a quote I hear so often in response to racism and discrimination.
No adult would liked to be spanked for stepping out of line. Children do not enjoy being spanked either; you tell your child you love them. You spank them. And you soothe the hurt you created. It is pointless circle.
When two people join in matrimony, it is a beautiful thing and the child two people create should be as beautiful a thing. If parents treated their child as they treated each other, spanking would diminish across the globe.
Some say those who are spanked turn out fine. I speak with those who say spanked children grow up believing it is alright to hit children.
And those are the people who cause the problems in the world.
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We, the Humankind
I always feel upset and confused when I see a person spank their child (or indeed their dog) for ‘misbehaviour’. The child, while small, is still a ‘complete’ person, and should be treated as such. As you said, spanking is a pointless, painful cycle (for both child and parent, I’m sure), and one that can have negative repercussions down the road. A well-written, thoughtful piece ☺︎
Jaya Avendel
Definitely negative repercussions in some form or another as the child grows and turns into an adult. Indeed, one might consider the adult spanking their own children a negative consequence of their own upbringing!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. 😊
We, the Humankind
Indeed!
Pitter Patter of Baby Feet
I honestly to everything in my power and patience to not spank my child. I feel when my toddler is misbehavior it’s better just to stay calm and give him a hug! I’ve always found that the most difficult times with children require a hug and a lot of patience as a parent.
I love what you said that adults would not like to be spanked for when they misbehave. This definitely puts the spanking debate into perspective. Great article!
Jaya Avendel
Giving a hug is one of the sweetest things to do! I feel like it is one of the best ways to offer support and comfort as well as bond.
I know, it often feels weird to me how some parents are willing to do things to their kids they would never do to each other . . .
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!
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kattieh
As a teacher, I have come across kids who have been spanked or hit when they have done ‘the wrong thing’. It gets to the point where you question whether you should tell parents about their child’s behaviour, or whether you should leave it. I thinking smacking your kids is definitely not the write way to deal with ‘bad’ or ‘naughty’ behaviours. Yes, there does need to be some form of consequences, but definitely not smacking or hitting!
Jaya Avendel
I am so glad you shared your thoughts with me! I can imagine it would be difficult to report a child’s bad behavior knowing they are likely to be spanked. I agree; consequences are needed but consequences need not be violent.
Jenny in Neverland
I don’t have kids but this is a really great post and I totally agree.
Jenny
Nancy
I can relate to parents being a hypocrite to their own rule sometimes. It upsets me because they tend to treat their children not as well as they would to their friends. I understand that they’re trying to teach their kids to be good people but there are different ways to do it.
Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me
Jaya Avendel
I simply love how you have worded your thoughts! What you say is so true and it always bugs me to. I feel as if adults treat other adults well but not their own children and that often does not make sense to me. What better way to teach a child to be a good person then to model the behavior and show respect is not based on size or age?
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!
wendy waters
Well said! I can’t stand it when I see a parent hitting their child. It’s abuse and wouldn’t be tolerated if they were whacking a adult. Hypocrites for sure!
Jaya Avendel
You have definitely reflected my feelings on the matter! It is curious how hitting a child is tolerated if it is ‘discipline’ but hitting an adult could land you with assault charges.
Tony Starling Kidd
love, acceptance and approval, nothing more or less for our children. -tsk
Jaya Avendel
Agreed!
In mind and out
I agree with you one hundred percent.
Jaya Avendel
I am glad this piece spoke to you!