Discipline: The Relationship Between Writing and Parenting
The same patience we, as writers, apply to nurturing our writing into something excellent is the same thing we need to apply to teaching children. Make a difference. Be a cycle breaker!
The same patience we, as writers, apply to nurturing our writing into something excellent is the same thing we need to apply to teaching children. Make a difference. Be a cycle breaker!
The first thing to parenting is patience. Your baby will scream. Your four year-old will defy you. Your seven year-old will disobey you. Your ten year-old will make trouble. But if you meet these troubles with patience, your family will come out better for the wear. Learn how.
When children are told not to cry and stop crying before they are ready, feeling an unconscious need to obey their parents, some of their feelings are left clenched up inside them. This can lead to depression or anger.
With schools shut across the country and colleges and businesses going online, families are stuck together at home with no options such as eating out, going to the theatre, or daycare to relieve the stress, since social distancing is advised right now. What to do? Watch TV and play video games nonstop?
Having a large family, especially since many farmers kept moving further West, solved the problem of falling short of labor. Children cost nothing but the food and clothes to sustain them, leaving parents with fives of children under their roofs. To keep them under control, mothers turned to spanking while fathers whipped in the infamous woodshed.
The 50’s, 60’s, and 70’s were known prevalent years for spanking. While acknowledging that many good things did arise from the progress of those times, the amount of spanking that occurred is one of the reasons I do not like them. And, in that dislike, I often forget there are stories within the millions. I forget there are people who stood against the common parenting practices of the day and did not give “little Billy the spanking he deserved”.
Perhaps, being a minority, they are not thought of.
I think of them now.
Kelly Clarkson’s advocacy of spanking made a huge splash during its time. While her Instagram is lathered in photos of happy family life, I doubt her reality is as sweet. Here is why.
Solomon was wise. But, when it came to children, he was a failure. He taught his son violence and his son continued that cycle. How? And, more importantly, why?
We hear about children respecting their parents and we hear about what happens to them when they do not; children can be sent to their rooms, spanked, grounded, or scolded.
But what about PARENTS respecting their CHILDREN?
Some parents are hypocrites of The Golden Rule.