According to the King James Bible, Solomon was born to King David in Jerusalem, the son of his favorite wife, Bathsheba. Though the youngest of three sons, Solomon assumed the throne based on God’s instruction to David. Meanwhile, his siblings were committing incest and murdering each other.
The wisest man to live, Solomon authored The Song of Solomon, Proverbs, and Ecclesiastes. But he also supported worship of Molech and Chemosh, gods who commanded child sacrifice. Screaming children were thrown to burn in hopes the gods would grant good crops in the following year.
Despite his use of spankings to beat the hell out of his son, Solomon was a failure as a father. All he accomplished was to teach his son violence and his people violence. Rehoboam continued that cycle. “And the king [Rehoboam] answered the people roughly, and forsook the counsel of the old men which they had given him, and spake to them after the counsel of the young men, saying, My father made your yoke heavy, but I will add to your yoke: my father chastised you with whips, but I will chastise you with scorpions. Kings 12:13-14.”
Rehoboam’s actions are not those of a child raised by a wise father. He proves spanking is a poor method to teach by, showing us he learned violence and a need to inflict suffering, as his father inflicted suffering on him by hitting him. There is no empathy. There is no kindness.
If you were to follow Solomon’s words and do exactly as he bid, you would beat your child for infractions, thereby delivering him from the hell of his wrongs. “Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Proverbs 23:13-14.“
Deliverance is meant to be a sacred thing. Why then does it sound like deliverance is born through pain?
One can beat a child. He will not die but it goes against the better judgement of good parents. It goes against the morals of a morally upright person, and is child abuse. Solomon gave leave to abuse children, not spank them.
Parents who do spank do not even use the rod. A wide variety of instruments are employed but rarely a rod. If Solomon’s will were to be followed, only the rod and perhaps a whip would be used, and this world would overflow with bruised children.
Most parents will not take a rod or whip to their child. But they will take Solomon’s words and apply it to something else; another form of lesser violence he never endorsed.
Solomon was violent. He would scoff at the concept of spanking and encourage beating. So, if you must use Solomon’s words to justify spanking, at least follow his words with precision instead of cherry-picking verses to justify your lesser actions.
I do not believe the rod mentioned in relation to “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him. Proverbs 13:24” is a literal one. The rod is a tool of guidance and it is never used to hit the sheep. Why then, should it be used to hit children?
Children do need correction; guidance to go in the right direction after doing a wrong. As the good Sheppard guides his sheep, so must parents guide their child. And, as with the Sheppard, one never hits the child.
It is not what you can do that makes you a good parent. It is what you choose to do.